Bad Reputation

By Ramzy Nasrallah on August 6, 2013 at 11:30a
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Oh, Woody.

Buck Burnette was the first commitment of the Texas Longhorns' 2006 recruiting class. He made his college pledge one month after Vince Young raised the BCS championship trophy for beating Southern Cal in the Rose Bowl.

He was a two-time all-state first team offensive tackle who registered 234 pancake blocks (!) in three years of high school football, but he was kicked off the team by the time Texas played Ohio State in the Fiesta Bowl in January 2009.

The catalyst for his dismissal was created in mere seconds: Following the 2008 presidential election, Burnette posted a Facebook status that called for hunters to get "the #$%&er in the whitehouse (sic)." Just like that, he was abruptly transformed from a Texas Longhorn into an Abilene Christian (DII) Wildcat.

Burnette is now a musician with a couple dozen Twitter followers. Google his name and you're immediately reminded of the only reason his name was once familiar: He went on the record with overt racism, tinged with violence - for a few seconds on the Internet.

Josh Jarboe also got thrown off his team, but that took a little longer than the Facebook status which caused Burnette's dismissal. Still, his unplanned departure happened before he played a single down.

Jarboe made a hideous 75 second freestyle video that quickly turned him from an Oklahoma Sooner on a short leash into a Troy Trojan. The former five-star WR later became a NE Mississippi Community College Tiger and finished college as an Arkansas State Red Wolf.

But the ball got rolling in Norman before his freshman year. It didn't even take a minute and a half.

Last week when Riley Cooper was permanently destroying his reputation on camera, I didn't think about Burnette or Jarboe. I immediately thought about Woody Hayes, whose reputation to non-stakeholders of Ohio State football is still defined by a few seconds of 35-year old videotape.

Sure, Woody held racial biases - but they didn't carry the violence or ugliness of Cooper's or Burnette's. Prior to the second game of the 1973 season he stood in the Buckeyes' locker room, held up a team photograph of the Horned Frogs and asked his players if they knew why they were going to win the game.

The players shouted out their answers: We have a better team. We have better coaches and athletes. Woody shook his head and said, "they don't have enough black players."

That could be interpreted as a backhanded way of saying TCU had too many white players, which is something John Cooper actually did say upon inheriting Earle Bruce's roster. Woody was most likely creating inspiration for about half of his roster. Anyway, the Buckeyes beat TCU 37-3.

But hot racial takes aren't how sneering outsiders define Woody 25 years after his death. They still view him by those few ugly, violent seconds that he willfully provided while a camera was on him. Cooper's racial tirade took less time than Woody slugging Charlie Baumann, but everyone saw both.

While it might be unfair to judge him on solely on his televised throat-punch, that glimpse into part of his character was correct: Woody put his hands on players all of the time. He was known to throw punches, but the recipient was almost always himself. Just not that time.

"I will fight every n***** here."Riley Cooper's reputation was altered forever in 20 seconds.

That's the wanton appeal of catching and recording unguarded behavior: It turns us into voyeurs, privy to what we believe to be a person's true character. You learn more about that person's dark side than they intended.

The towel Cooper normally held up to obscure who he really is hit the floor and for a few seconds at a Kenny Chesney concert, he was butt-naked. It wasn't sexy to anyone but unapologetic racists.

Cooper angrily telling a black security guard at a country music show what he did in those seconds told plenty of people all they ever need to know about him. He turns 26 next month.

When Cooper turns 36 he'll be known as the white former NFL receiver who...right. 

Similarly, Bob Knight is 73. He also once threw a sideline chair across the court during a televised basketball game and years later he put his hand on Neil Reed's neck during a practice that was recorded.

Those two pieces of tape, less than ten seconds in total, are easily the most-watched Knight highlights. The man won 902 college basketball games, but to many people he threw a chair and choked a player. They saw it.

Woody and Knight couldn't control their conduct despite having thousands of eyes on them. Jarboe was told to curb his unsavory tendencies and promptly took them to a camera.

Burnette and Cooper didn't have the courtesy or restraint to just keep their prejudices silent while creating millions of unintentional voyeurs, sending the public into a snap-judgmental tizzy. Disgusting, bite-sized racism occurs among us: Film at 11.

The Internet simplifies the distribution channel for this bite-sized ugliness. It's easier to consume than ever before: Carlos Hyde sort of reach-slapped in the direction of an underage female twerker at Sugar Bar 2 and lost a quarter of his final collegiate season.

Is El Guapo really the type who strikes women? Once he satisfies Urban Meyer he'll probably get to play in four road games. He might get a reminder of that night from those crowds.

Public shaming transcends ages, races professions and geography: Anthony Weiner showed his dong on the Internet twice during the time that you've been reading this column and it wrecked his political career. Paula Deen willfully eviscerated her buttery empire with racist comments.

She followed that up by tearfully saying I is what I is while live national television cameras were rolling. Weiner turns 49 next month and Deen is 66, but you probably know everything you care to about those two based on a few revealing seconds they shared publicly.

Ask any Michigan fan if Jim Tressel ever coached a game in his life without cheating.Meyer's predecessor at Ohio State effectively ended his coaching career with two very brief emails, but ask any Michigan fan if Jim Tressel ever coached a game in his life without cheating. Tatgate confirmed everything they wished to be true with a single instance of prima facie evidence.

Those are just some brief moments of indiscretion that went public. Consider the ones that slid under radar, or even the close calls: Clay Matthews and Brian Cushing once created a Facebook group at Southern Cal called White Nation that contained off-color racial slurs.

After news of it spread outside of Facebook, their non-white teammates revealed that White Nation was a nickname they had given their Caucasian teammates and that it was an inside joke that should have never made it outside. The reputations of Matthews and Cushing were salvaged.

In light of so many cautionary tales, it's important to remember that your reputation doesn't actually belong to you. Cooper's doesn't belong to him. Burnette's was never his. Your reputation - which carries more value for you than anyone else - is actually owned by the public.

Your character is yours. Guard it well and the public probably won't do unkind things with your reputation. Cooper lost control of his character for a few seconds with cameras rolling. El Guapo did as well. Woody did it live during a bowl game. And Burnette did it on Facebook.

Despite the varying degrees of ugliness, they all provide a nice little lesson: If you're really the person you want others to think you are when no one is watching, you should be okay if you drop your towel and the public accidentally catches a glimpse.

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Bucksfan's picture

True stuff.  It is the reason I have second thoughts about attending Eat Too Brutus this year with a Bucksfan t-shirt.

Oyster's picture

Guess what I just posted below?  It's Deja Vu All Over Again!

YTOWNBUCKI's picture

That t-shirt better have your icon on it.

I_Run_The_Dave's picture

They should make a "Icon Changer @11w" t-shirt.
Also, the inconspicuous way to self identify would be to have a shirt with your old icon on the front and the new icon on the back.  Only die-hards and premium members would know who you were!

Oyster's picture

I posted this same sentiment last week concerning publicity for players making mistakes or breaking the law.  The social media world we live in where everything can be recorded and posted for all to see is actually exposing bad behavior that has been going on forever, but just not known to the masses because there was no way to share it like there is today.  People are no worse than they were years ago, we just have the opportunity to see them in their natural environment in many cases.

CHESAPEAKE-VA-BUCK's picture

Thank you for a this well articulated article. There are very nasty people in this world and I think it is their right to be who they want to be, just not going to be my friend.  If you are in the public spotlight and inside you are ugly and it comes out stand by for the public backlash. 

"Woody is a God-fearing man. It's good to know that he's afraid of somebody." --Archie Griffin
 

Young_Turk's picture

It's a strange time, and getting stranger.  It used to be, the worst thing you did in life was probably done anonymously, or with very few sober people around.  I feel comfortable assuming we've all done a thing or two of which we are ashamed.  Now imagine if that act was recorded, shared on the internet, with everybody in judgment of your indiscretion.
Most human's have a broader range of behavior then what they're comfortable sharing with the world.  I confess I have behaved badly at times, and would be devastated if the worst of the worst were public knowledge.  But I also know that I have (and will) perform incredible acts of generosity and good-will.
But nowadays, with the internet, camera's everywhere, everything is captured and shared.  Especially if your bad behavior happens to be in bar or nightclub.  
Does that define you?  One could argue both sides of that coin.  The key is to pick yourself up, acknowledge you have stumbled, and set a clear direction forward, never to stray again.  And if you can't pay back for your indiscretion, pay it forward.  
There is a poem I like called High and Low

He stumbled home from Clifden fair
With drunken song, and cheeks aglow.
Yet there was something in his air
That told of kingship long ago.
I sighed -- and inly cried
With grief that one so high should fall so low.
But he snatched a flower and sniffed its scent,
And waved it toward the sunset sky.
Some old sweet rapture through him went
And kindled in his bloodshot eye.
I turned -- and inly burned
With joy that one so low should rise so high.
-- James H. Cousins

 
 
 

Akeem96's picture

A little off topic but I recall hearing Jim Rome (and others) once state that anyone who uses a racial slur is a racist.  
I totally disagree.  
I am of the opinion that when put in confrontational situation and emotions come up, all bets are off.  One person looks for any open wound they can find in order to inflict pain.  
If two men engage in an argument and one is 6' 0" and the other is 5' 2", you can almost bet that the former will remark about the height of the latter.  Is that because the "average" size guy hates short people, or is he just taking the easiest jab available?
Race is often an easy target, but height, weight, religion, hair style, clothing, etc could latched onto if there is reason to believe that an adversary may be sensitive to a comment about it.

Bucksfan's picture

Romey also says Twitter is like a loaded gun, which is right on in my professional opinion.

WolverineKiller's picture

I appreciate your opinion, but I feel like you might have contradicted yourself.  I live this everyday, I'm a minority, and help my clients develop an affirmative defense with compliance training.  In this situation I would agree with Jim Rome.
I agree, that in a confrontational situation it's easy for emotions to surface and they are looking for a way to inflict pain.  By recognizing that fact, and then following it by making a racist or discriminatory comment the person by default is racist.
Slightly changing topics, professional teams are unique compared to your typical employer.  Imagine a peer at work said the same words that Riley Cooper did in front of co-workers and managers, what would happen?  Would the co-worker be returning to work the next day?
Do you feel that if we no longer lived in a social media centric world and the film wasn't released to the public,  Riley Cooper would feel remorse?

Just Win.

Akeem96's picture

I'm afraid that you mistook my comment to mean that I condone the behavior and since it is human nature it is a justifiable reaction.  I don't believe that at all.
My point was that not every person who has ever used a racial slur is a racist and explained why I believe this.
Riley Cooper?  I never acknowledged the name until this past week.  I would speculate that he feels more remorse about his comments being captured than actually making them, but again, that is just my speculation.  There is a chance, even if it is small, that he does feel remorse for making them.  Even if he does not, that still does not mean that every person who has or will find themselves in a similar situation will not feel remorse for making their mistake. 
Who has never said something hurtful to a spouse, friend, etc that they regretted and didn't really mean?  I think everyone has and everyone would recognize that.  So why when race gets added, is it suddenly unforgivable and only hate motivated and a reflection of the individual's heart.
Rome's comment which you claim to agree with is an absolute, no exceptions stand point.  I personally think this gets in the way of mending relations.
What is really the harm in giving someone who had a single incident the benefit of the doubt?

WolverineKiller's picture

My apologies if my reply sounded like I felt that you condone the behavior.  That was not my intention, as I'm sure that you don't condone the behavior.  What sane person would? One of the many great things about 11W is that the community as a whole brings a diverse background with one love of tOSU. 
I understand and respect:

My point was that not every person who has ever used a racial slur is a racist and explained why I believe this.

My belief is just different; that if something as derogatory and hateful can come out of a person's mouth, there has to a be a level of racism in their personality.  I think we would all agree that there are different levels of severity when it comes to racism, like most things in the world.  I'm sure that all of us are guilty of saying things that we don't mean and have been hurtful to a recipient.
I believe that making racist remarks are forgivable like most sins in the world. But, IMHO that is up to the victim(s) of the situation (which can be anyone).  I didn't intend for my reply to convey that racism is something that is unforgivable.
Perhaps I interpreted the quote differently.  I interpreted the quote as such:  That if you use a racist slur, no matter the situation, there is a level of racism in your body, thus making you a racist on some level.

Just Win.

Wilkins78's picture

This is spot on.  Slurs of any kind are (in nearly all cases) insults.  They can be born out of ignorant bias and hatred, or they can be hurled in the heat of the moment, because the person doing the insulting thinks/knows it'll land.  Now, that doesn't mean it's appropriate in any setting, but it simply does not follow that using a racial slur means you're a racist.  

MuraliPatel's picture

I think the lesson to be taken from what you're pointing at is that we should all try to be the bigger person. Be a better man (or woman) than you would be in that moment normally.

cajunbuckeye's picture

Great read, as always, Ramzy. It's amazing that a few seconds can define a persons entire life, but it is a reality that many people have come to know. Social media is a giant snare, that entraps many people forever. Young girls sexting, people tweeting or posting while intoxicated or under duress; the list of life changing digital decisions is a mile long. If I were coaching young people today, "the perils of social media" would be part of my program. It's a jungle out there.

An angry fan...rooting for an angry team...led by angry coaches

Buckeye80's picture

Great article Ramzy!
Unfortunately there are many good deeds that go unnoticed.
Two years ago today, my friends brother-in-law was one of the many members of Navy Seal Team 6 that was killed in Afghanistan when the helicopter they were in was hit with a RPG.  My buddies wife was as close to her brother as two siblings could be, and she still struggles with the loss of her brother today.  She flew to base with her family and was picked up by the military to be taken to an undisclosed location to be there when he brother was brought back to the US.  She met the President at this time.  She was not permitted to have a phone with her. 
Her boss made a phone call to somebody he knows at The Ohio State University.  When she returned to the hotel, she had a voicemail on her phone. 
The message said (I am paraphrasing):  Hello.  I heard that you are a big Buckeye fan.  I wanted to call and let you know how sorry I am for your loss.  I want to let you know that although you are grieving right now, that all of Buckeye Nation grieves with you.  We are praying for you and your family. Go Bucks! 
It was Coach Tressel.  The man was in the middle of a career ending controversy.  His life was being turned upside down, but yet he took the time to make a short 30 second phone call to put a smile on a devastated face. 
These people have all done something wrong, but one or two bad decisions should in no way be a final judgement on them.  That's why at last years edition of The Game, I proudly stood and cheered for Coach Tressel, and all that he had done for The Ohio State University.

northcampus's picture

Sadly, our society thrives on drama and negativity, so acts of kindness/generosity/empathy largely go (and have gone) unnoticed unless there is a PR spin to the positive act (ex: a political or celebrity visiting a sick/wounded soldier).  For every childish sideline rant Woody performed, he probably performed 500 or more acts of generosity/kindness, but those were never covered by the media and/or opposing fans.  Same with Tressel.
Even with our present coach, the media focuses on the few negative attachments to his character instead of the numerous positive actions he's taken.

WestCoastBuckeye's picture

Coach Tressel will always be one of those incindiary figures to those outside of our program. I have a similar story to this though of far less importance. I'm not the guy who emails sports figures to get their attention or just hopes for a response. During the height of Tatgate, 2 days before Tress eventually stepped down I sent him an email. I let him know that despite all of his struggles I always thought of him as a person I'd want my son to play for. A man of integrity who has made a mistake. I let him know that I'd definitely keep him in my prayers and that no matter what he'd always be part of the Buckeye family to me.
The DAY before he stepped down he responded back to me.
"Matt,
I'd like to take the time to thank you for your kind words of encouragement. I appreciate you taking the time to send them.*additional religious content removed in fear of the banhammer*
Yours truly,
JT"
The day before the man got forced out he took the time to respond to some random fan. Sad to see a few emails taint that.
 
P.s. Riley Cooper is a dbag, using that term may not implicitly make you a racist but it DEFINITELY makes you a dbag.

Hovenaut's picture

History has taught us that a mindset of hate, prejudice and/or intolerance doesn't bode well for most.

Social media is teaching us that a moment of hate, prejudice and/or intolerance doesn't bode well for most....that are on record/been caught public as stated above.

"Success...it's what you do with what you got" - Woody Hayes

tampa buckeye's picture

I hate all this Outside the lines bullshit. Can we get back to talking about football? We know people have problems I get it. Sports give us an outlet to forget about those problems even just for a few hours a day

Denny's picture

I'm sure you'll be the first one issued a refund for the hard-earned money dollars you payed for this content.

Taquitos.

BrewstersMillions's picture

That's a 5 star comment right there....

4-6 seconds from point A to point B and when you get to point B, be pissed off

Geraffi's picture

Sports are  a microcosm of society. You can't just take the good (the game) and ignore the bad (all this other stuff).  The negative needs to be addresses as well because it's part of the story. Sports played a significant role in the civil rights movement. Should we have ignored that in favor of wins and losses?

tampa buckeye's picture

Not sure why im getting blasted for that but whatever. Im not a drama queen I guess.

penult's picture

Probably because if you don't want to talk about this kind of thing then don't read an article about and make a post about how you don't want to talk about the thing, which you ironically just read an article about and made a post about. There are a lot of articles about Xs and Os on this site and all over the Internet. If that's what you want, then go there instead of bothering people here, who must have an interest in this kind of topic. Or at least state that you are tired of off season stuff in a less confrontational way. But I'm pretty sure DENNY summed all this up in a more eloquent way above.

BUCKI06's picture

Considering football hasn't even started yet, I think the writers here at 11W are doing a pretty good job of providing us with some "bullshit" to pass the time until the season starts.
It's not a bad thing to read an article every now and then that's a little thought provoking - and Ramzy does a great job here.
I mean, we're 3 days into camp - how many articles can be written about Dontre Wilson being fast, Miller being humble, and our D-Line needing to be replaced.
We're all ready for football to get here.  So either enjoy the "bullshit" on 11W, or don't feel the need to comment.

"As long as we're keeping score, we're gonna try to win this thing." - UFM

carence's picture

As an African American man I can honestly say that everyone who uses the 'N" is not racist. Do I think Riley Cooper is racist? Nope.
In the heat of a moment, people tend to say the most negative things they can in order to get at their opponent, enemy or what ever the situation is. A man and a woman get into a heated argument and start calling each other names. What's the 1 thing women like to attack? The manhood!
I play COD(I'm a beast) and sometimes you get into rooms where guys are getting dominated and the 1st thing they want to do is call their opponent the "N" word. It's ignorant but I don't think in all cases there is a racist intent.
A very good friend of mine who I served in the Marines with was drinking 1 night and he was intoxicated. As I was in the middle of a conversation with another Marine, he told me to "shut my Black a** up" I politely told him to shut it up for me and choked him. We are good friends till this day but at no point did I think he was racist. Just stupid at that time.

Baroclinicity's picture

In the heat of a moment, people tend to say the most negative things they can in order to get at their opponent, enemy or what ever the situation is.

This is thought provoking.  It's almost a childish type reaction where the sole goal is to cut as deep as possible.  I guess the debate comes in regarding whether or not a phrase like that should be an option, even at one's worst.  If that's in the bank of phrases one can dig down deep to retrieve and use, does that make someone inherently racist?  Or is it there in everyone because it's simply a universally known bad word or phrase and can't be avoided because of its lightning rod type characteristics?  Would like to hear someone with a psychology background chime in on this.

When you're holding a hammer, everything looks like a nail.

carence's picture

It is absolutely childish but you have to remember in Cooper's situation he was drinking. We know how some people are once they drink. "A phrase like that be an option" I didn't know there were rules in fighting. Cooper was ready to fight the security which is why he was angry.
I'm not saying that everyone who uses the word isn't a racist. There are some racist out there that use the word proudly but to say that everyone that says it is a racist is inaccurate.
These are my views and opinions only. I have dealt with racism firsthand and I served in the military with guys who were brought up in racist households.
Oh and I have a Psychology background with a degree in Criminal Psychology.

Baroclinicity's picture

I think that came out wrong on my end, and most of my questions were in the tone of thinking out loud as opposed to challenging you, so I hope it didn't come out that way.  I'm not condoning that phrase as an option.  I'm just wondering if it is inherently there regardless of the fact that's its wrong on every possible level, and if so, why is it there (again, thinking out loud)?  I liked your post; I was one who upvoted it.

When you're holding a hammer, everything looks like a nail.

nfischer's picture

One may (possibly) make an argument that a person can say this word and not be a racist, but they can't say this word and not be cruel in the context he used it in. He said this to hurt someone deeply.  So, while he may not be a racist, he definitely has some issues to be willing to go to that level to hurt/wound someone with his words.

FROMTHE18's picture

Fantastic write-up.

BuckeyeStrong2's picture

Reputation: a lifetime to build and maintain, yet one second can destroy it all.

Poison nuts's picture

My God sir, you can write.

"Death created time to grow the things that it would kill" - Detective Rustin Cohle.

Geraffi's picture

Great piece, Ramzy. Thanks. 

MassiveAttack's picture

As always, very thought provoking and well written.  Please post articles more frequently!

Maestro's picture

Every Tuesday, like clockwork.

vacuuming sucks

buckskin's picture

Excellent perspective.  Woody will forever be remembered by the nation as that guy who punched that Clemson player.  Too bad they never got to know who he really was.  Great coach and even better person.

kmp10's picture

This is ridiculous. IMO, Cooper should have said:
 
“I made a mistake. I said something that is offensive to many, and for that I am terribly sorry. My team mates and those close to me know what’s in my heart. Again, my most sincere and humble apologies. For everyone’s information I’ll have nothing more to say about this at any point in the future. Thank you…”
 
It’s a WORD. He said a WORD that’s offensive. Who hasn’t???? I would love for any NFL player (or any living human being for that matter) to deny having ever used a word that someone else would find offensive. This is being blown stratospherically out of proportion. When Warren Sapp said Jason Sehorn was only getting attention as a cornerback in this league “because he’s white” where was the outcry??? My intention isn't to stir the pot so to speak regarding something Sapp said several years ago, rather it's to point out that double standards blow. Whomever is on the short end of that stick is getting hosed, no matter the color of their skin, their religious beliefs, or gender. Riley Cooper has resided in the Eagles locker room for, I believe, three years now. If in three years of working, busting balls, playing games and being with each other for an inordinate amount of time no one thought Cooper a bigot/racist, well, then his actions were primary in leading his team mates to that conclusion. A word, spoken in a drunken moment, should not SIGNIFICANTLY change what three years of behavior established. Should people be offended? Sure. Should there be some tension, some re evaluating of friendships and of whether or not the team is still a cohesive unit? Yes. But at the end of the day, Riley Cooper built something with that team and those players over three long, hard years in that league... and one drunken moment using an offensive and inappropriate word should not undo what years of good behavior built. If Mike Vick gets a second chance after his abhorrent, psychotic behavior, well, then Riley Cooper should most certainly be extended the same courtesy after using an offensive word. 

GOSUBUcks's picture

Apparently your reputation is a little more protected in Louisiana as we found out recently with Jeremy Hill. I guess breaking probation by punching someone from behind in a parking lot and then celebrating over their knocked out body doesn't ruin your reputation with your teammates and Les at LSU.  "Just score touchdowns and we will forget all down here"

Dougger's picture

Has clay Travis written an article about him yet?.. 
No but ramzy- outstanding work

I like football

GODOFWARBUCKEYE's picture

A wise man learns from his mistakes. The wisest man learns from his own mistakes and the mistakes of others.

Keep up the good work Ramzy!!!

"GIMMIE THAT BEAT FOOL!!! IT'S A FULL TIME JACK MOVE" Ice Cube jack for beats..

ChazBuckeye's picture

As I feel the "N" word is bad NO MATTER WHO is saying to WHO!  The biggest problem I have is some are aloud to say that word with an A at the end and it's all good bruh.  However, the moment a Caucasian person says the exact same word with the A at the end and it suddenly becomes a racial comment that they're not allowed to say.  Sorry to all my fellow African Americans friends, but I'm calling Bull Shit!  
See what these gentlemen did was they put it out for anyone to see or hear bc of social media.  Even though I do believe Riley said the word in a negative fashion (whether any African Americans were around or not).  Considering he plays with certain individuals, he may have wanted to not say it on camera (or phone camera or what have you). He's a celebratory type person considering he plays for an NFL team who should have been watching what they were saying (and apparently to who).  The young kids, well they messed up bc that little comment can go a long way on social media, unfortunately.  

Some people think we’re the hunted.I don’t feel that way at all.We’re the hunter.Everybody wants an angry football team.Everybody wants a team on edge and a hungry team.If you’re a hunter,that usually equates to being hungry.

Jdadams01's picture

Good work, Ramzy. I look forward to these articles every week because I know there will usually be diverse views and topics. And they are always well written.

Frostybuck88's picture

Excellent read Ramzy, as usual.  To see the character of boys and men self-eviscerated with a mindless act is sad and all too common.  I think Mr. Kipling said it best, something every young man should read:
If you can keep your head when all about you
  Are losing theirs and blaming it on you,
If you can trust yourself when all men doubt you,
  But make allowance for their doubting too;
If you can wait and not be tired by waiting,
  Or being lied about, don’t deal in lies,
Or being hated, don’t give way to hating,
  And yet don’t look too good, nor talk too wise:
If you can dream—and not make dreams your master;
  If you can think—and not make thoughts your aim;
If you can meet with Triumph and Disaster
  And treat those two impostors just the same;
If you can bear to hear the truth you’ve spoken
  Twisted by knaves to make a trap for fools,
Or watch the things you gave your life to, broken,
  And stoop and build ’em up with worn-out tools:
If you can make one heap of all your winnings
  And risk it on one turn of pitch-and-toss,
And lose, and start again at your beginnings
  And never breathe a word about your loss;
If you can force your heart and nerve and sinew
  To serve your turn long after they are gone,
And so hold on when there is nothing in you
  Except the Will which says to them: “Hold on!”
If you can talk with crowds and keep your virtue,
  Or walk with Kings—nor lose the common touch,
If neither foes nor loving friends can hurt you,
  If all men count with you, but none too much;
If you can fill the unforgiving minute
  With sixty seconds’ worth of distance run,
Yours is the Earth and everything that’s in it,
  And—which is more—you’ll be a Man, my son!
        - Rudyard Kipling
 

The Dude abides...

ShowThemOhiosHere's picture

People make mistakes.  Society has become so negative and so drama driven that it seems like people can't make one mistake, or they're forever tarnished.
Woody Hayes got pissed off in the heat of the moment during a frustrating game and punched a Clemson player in the throat.  That player wasn't hurt from what I remember of the story (I wasn't born yet so I didn't see it live).  This doesn't mean that Woody Hayes is an evil monster.  He did a lot of good for a lot of people, and sure, he was one competitive mf'er who despised losing (his words).  But you can't define Woody by that one action.
Jim Tressel decided to lie to the NCAA about his knowledge of NCAA violations of a few of his players.  Regardless of what his motives were, and regardless of how silly the violations were, he did technically lie to them.  And it cost him his job.  Again, though, all of the amazing things Tressel did in the community are part of who he is as well.  He made a mistake, but again, he's not this big bad cheating bad guy because of this mistake. 
And I believe that using a racial slur doesn't exactly make you a racist.  It depends on what you meant.  People say shit they don't mean all of the time in the heat of the moment.  In some confrontational situations, I wasn't necessarily looking for something accurate to say or something that I truly felt deep down inside - I was looking for something nasty to say that I know would hurt.  Maybe Riley Cooper was racist, or maybe he was drunk and in the heat of a moment pulled out a word that he wouldn't normally use.  I don't know.  Same with Paula back in like the Stone Age when she actually used a racial slur.  Something tells me though that if Riley Cooper is really racist, then he's in the wrong profession.
Some people are completely ridiculous these days, and social media gives them the outlet to troll harder than they could ever troll before.  People make mistakes.  Get over yourself, it's not like you've never made a mistake.  TSUN fans wish that Tressel cheated every game, because they lost to him 9 out of 10 times.  Maybe it wouldn't be so embarrassing if Tressel cheated every time instead of just 2010.  Like tattoos are a competitive advantage though. 

Class of 2010.

causeicouldntgo43's picture

Ramzy - you must be doing something right to inspire two poems in this thread so far.............

buckeyepastor's picture

Great article about keeping things in perspective, and not assessing and measuring the totality of a life based on a small snippet of data.    Clicking the link above was the first time I've actually heard what Cooper said.   Based on the way the media was reporting it but not playing it (for very good reason), I had anticipated something a LOT worse than what I saw.   What I saw was a guy who had too much to drink at a concert being a belligerent blowhard in front of some friends and saying something really stupid and offensive.   I think Riley Cooper is guilty of being an irresponsible idiot, but I don't think from this video that this is representative of who he is or what he really thinks.   

"Woody would have wanted it that way" 

CentralFloridaBuckeye's picture

Great article as usual Ramzy.  Makes you think about things that is for sure.

buckeyedude's picture

Race, racism and race baiting are big business in this country, like it or not. The media, some of the most racist people in the country IMHO, will do everything in its power to keep it going. It sells newspapers. And it gets hits on the net.  
The Golden Rule.
I believe people need to practice it more. But I guess that's old fashioned?

 

 

Maestro's picture

Platinum rule, treat others as they want to be treated.  Golden rule rules though.

vacuuming sucks

XUbuckeye's picture

Always look forward to Tuesday, good read Ramzy. 

"So when you get knocked on your butt, get up, get over it, and then next time, kick their ass." - Woody Hayes 

pjtobin's picture

"That be the realist shit I ever wrote"2pac. Your words are very true. Great article. Thank you. 

Bury me in my away jersey, with my buckeye blanket. A diehard who died young. Rip dad. 

Hockey Buck's picture

Textbook example is former Rutgers coach Mike Rice's "greatest hits." Once his entire coaching career was boiled down to 2 minutes of tape, he never had a chance in the court of public opinion.