I'm coaching my daughters Metro basketball team this year, and I have coached her traveling softball team and soccer team. There are definitely some great refs out there, but then there are some that should not be out there.
My most recent experience with a bad ref (OHSAA) was we were playing a team that wanted to jump the point guard at midcourt, but when they would do this, they would body check them which knocked them off balance. I asked the ref to make this call and she said she would address it after the 1st quarter. At the end of the 1st quarter, she went to each bench and said that it would not be allowed moving forward. Next quarter, same thing, and guess what she never made the call. Best part is when I questioned her, her exact statement to me was "I can't call that foul because the game would take too long." I was astounded by that statement. She admitted that it was a foul, but she wouldn't call it because it would make us be there too long. I have the book, there was a total of 6 fouls called in the game, 5 against my team and 1 against there team. Maybe if she would make the foul call, the other team would stop doing it and she would never have to make the call again.
Our next game, we had probably the best refs that I have experienced in youth basketball. They called fouls properly on both teams, and would also instruct the girls why the call were made and how they should play moving forward. This made the game extremely clean and fast paced. I thanked them after the game.
Like others have stated refs need to be held accountable and there is very little that actually does this.