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RK84 12th Warrior

Cbus (via Ohio Valley)

Member since 17 January 2012 | Blog

Just assume its sarcasm, unless otherwise stated.


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Comment 16 Jan 2018

I don't understand this post. Basically its a taking a shot at a kid that didn't choose OSU, but also praising one that did.

Why not move on from the one that didn't want to play for Urban, and focus on the one that did?

Seems a bit crazy ex-gf to continually post about those who got away like they are inherently bad people because of a personal choice.

Sidenote: I was not a fan of Mr. Carman or the way he handled his recruitment.

Comment 11 Jan 2018

Noted, I spent some time in Cleveland in the early 2000s, it felt lost and tired if that makes sense. My brother recently moved there, its ac completely different feel now. Lots of great things in my profession available, even made me think of moving myself.

Comment 11 Jan 2018

Columbus and Cleveland are booming in IT, there are tons of jobs available. Rivaling Austin, Charlotte, Atlanta as a young professionals choice.

People (not you) want to dismiss the mid west as dead, and for some time that may have been true, but there is a rebirth taking place in sectors that dont care about the past and don't care about the rust belt.

Comment 11 Jan 2018

Maybe they aren't, maybe its whats available? How many hockey, golf, lacrosse, wrestling high school powers are found in the south?

Not to mention that some may see football as their avenue to be successful in life. In area with more options sports not withstanding, football its just a sport.

Comment 10 Jan 2018

And all you're contributing to the conversation is to tell me I'm wrong for sharing my thoughts and experiences in a place specifically designed for that.

Just because some of them are pressured into "playing along" doesn't negate the inherent power imbalance between men and women in *any* workplace, but particularly in the restaurant industry. That's how structural misogyny works.

Also, the women involved in what I saw were not pressured into anything, matter of fact they were the ring leaders a number of times.  

Furthermore, saying that things are only a problem if "laws are being broken" ignores the fact that most sexual misconduct does not rise to the level of a criminal offense.

Again, I didn't say anything like that. I said IF laws are broken, and by that I mean if there is something not completely consensual, then the people involved should be held accountable fro whatever actions they took that were unwanted. 

What you are missing in this and I still don't understand why you have singled me out is that I don't think its a good thing. I think its unhealthy, immature, and harmful. I do however understand how the people involved fall into that way of living. There was no misogyny or harassment or anything foul taking place in my situation. There was in this case with BIrm and people are being held accountable all these years later.

Comment 10 Jan 2018

Whoa whoa whoa, I never said I don't care. I provided my opinion from my past experiences in that industry, at no point did I say it was ok, I just said it happened and still does. In this instance and I'm sure many others one person wasn't a willing participant. In the experiences I had everyone was taking part and no one was claiming harassment. I ended up moving away from the bartending and bouncing circuit because things were getting out of hand I didn't like who I was becoming.

I have no idea why you're singling me out in all of this, if you don't like the culture that's fine. I don't think its a healthy lifestyle, but its not my place to tell other people how to live. If laws are being broken and people are being hurt, by all means shut it down and hold the guilty liable. If its just a bunch of people making questionable decisions with each other, that's on them.

I don't condone the behavior, I understand it, there is a difference.

Comment 10 Jan 2018

Agree, it could have been the catalyst that made him grow up and get his shit together. We don't know.

I think its all immaturity and bad decisions, mixed with booze and a lax culture. I don't find it disturbing like some do, I just find it dumb.

Comment 10 Jan 2018

but it does happen nonetheless. What you did and how you carried yourself, doesn't change the way SOME people carry themselves.

Creeps and immaturity are everywhere. Doesn't make it right, and doesn't mean you should participate, but things like this aren't new and aren't going away.

Comment 10 Jan 2018

That's ultimately the point right? Its all fun and games and haha dick pics, until it crosses a line. You cant be so shortsighted and blindly ignorant to think actions don't have repercussions. I think he regrets the way he acted, and I'm sure hoped it would all stay in the past. As it turns out, someone was hurt by it, and it didn't go away.

To quote Dougie MacCray from The Town: "No matter how much you change, you still have to pay the price for the things you've done."

Comment 10 Jan 2018

Yes and no. Yes it was a mistake, no it wasn't a one time thing from the sound of it. I'm sure he grew up and moved on, obviously this girl was affected by it more than I'm sure anyone in the group realized. Therein lies the rub, just because its nbd to you, doesn't mean its nbd to someone else.

Comment 10 Jan 2018

No nothing like the movie industry. I'm sure the wrongdoing took place he all but admitted to it. Although he never copped to the dick pic. Its a weird world. A dick pic from a manager is probably one of the more trivial things that I saw when I worked in the industry. Solicited or not. People regularly hook up, send pics, get loaded on all kids of substances, and laugh about it later. Now that doesn't make it right, but from a perspective of it being kind of normal relative to the situation, its understandable how he might have not seen harm in it at the time.