I think his imaginary friend follows him around everywhere he goes. Constantly encouraging him to climb another tree, drink another glass of milk, or have another sleepover.
I'm not taking all of it at face value, but a lot of it appeals to me. There's no such thing as infallible logic, but it's certainly rare in today's society for someone to point out the irrationality of "meant to be" thing. It just makes sense that there's plenty of good fits & bad fits out there, not one person for everyone & that's it.
I think relationships that work are a product of finding a good fit for you when you're at a point personally where you're ready to make it work. It's like when you hear the "I met the right person at the wrong time" excuse. I think that's a real phenomenon.
One thing I like about that site is the points about using rejection as a learning experience, and confidence being the product of having options because having options eliminates desperation. It tries to push people away from the scarcity mindset, and even if it's way of doing so isn't 100% perfect, it's not the worst start.
Allin, I think I'm doing a lot better. I finally hit a point where I realize she's not what's best for me, even if I want her to be. I brought that up to the therapist, we're working on it.
Beyond that, I'm eating a lot better, and warming up to doing things I enjoy. They don't seem so pointless as they once did.
I don't take everything to heart. But anything that would advocate the potential benefits of standing up for yourself is worth the initial look. It's something I've always had a problem with.
I'm really thankful you turned me onto the Rational Male site. I've been reading it a ton the past few days & a lot of what I'm seeing mirrors my personal experiences very well. It all makes sense, and I do feel I've been conditioned to believe a false narrative that directly undermines my own best interests.
What I just went through, it makes me question everything ya know? But it's not the first time, just the first time that going through this has had such an extreme effect on my life.
Before everything happened in April, Fallout 4 & also New Vegas.
Guys, I think these next few years are gonna be pretty good.
It's all very insightful. Fortunately, I think I have learned from this experience.
What happened to me sucks, and I have some issues to sort through. But in general, I actually consider myself extremely lucky.
I don't play PC games unfortunately, I don't have one. I don't play online in general.
But I do play Fallout, and I usually set the luck up to 8 or 9. If luck is a matter of perspective, maybe I'm heading in the right direction.
Let's be real here, I might have to learn to be a little bit of an asshole. Lol
I have an issue with not speaking my mind until it's too late.
I know that for me, I get anxious, or something like it. Eating makes me feel sort of sick when I'm feeling really down, or even ashamed.
If I had to take a guess, some people punish themselves while some over-reward themselves. Maybe it's all dependent on self esteem, who knows.
I thought we were generally good together, and that we had a lot of potential. Beyond that, I'm finally realizing 2 things:
1) Outside of her leaving, almost everything about my life has actually gotten better thanks to the effort I put in & a little bit of luck.
2) I made my mistakes, but I owned up to them. I don't wanna go into details, but although I couldn't see it the past 3 months, I actually wasn't being treated fairly.
I've actually been having a pretty good day. I'm thinking a lot about what I want to continue to do, and also planning trips. Idk how long the good days will last, but I'm just trying to get the most out of them. I agree on being happier in my own skin before getting back out there, I'm not there yet. I appreciate your advice.
First things first, I like the name. Michigan always sucks, no matter what life throws at us.
This comment means a lot, because I can relate to it a bit. I was 178lbs at least when this all started in early April. This morning at the gym, I weighed 151.2
I'm not proud to say a lot of that was being too anxious to eat during April and parts of May. I'm finally realizing I'm not as happy as I think I am during relationships. It's all because insecurities I've always neglected, and it will always lead to worry.
I appreciate your advice, and even more the perspective. Part of what got me in a bad spot tbh was trying to win her back. I disregarded my own health & well being for almost 3 months.
Part of that time, I looked for answers on the internet, I admit. I discovered no contact and started working on myself, but not for the right reasons. For the record, I could never successfully do the no contact thing.
Now, I've learned 2 big lessons: I have to mature #1. Number two is that I have to be happy with myself, which is the cliche but true answer I've been running from for years.
I'm going to therapy once a week now, trying to lift weights, have a better attitude towards my family. I'm trying to do things I know the happy me would do without her. I really needed the advice for Tinder tbh. It's rough out there when you get tossed back in the game. Idk if I'm ready for it right now.
Everything in this world is designed to monetize our emotions. And all the system does is create unhappy, insecure people who are willing to spend that money in search of answers.
Thanks, Knar. This might be my favorite comment so far.
Can Minnesota get a "hell yeah!"?
I did the whole therapy thing last night. It went ok I think. I told him most of the highlights in regards to my issues, they don't have to dig too hard with me. He told me to make sure I'm eating, and keep going to the gym. Also he wanted me to focus on any progress at all, because it's still progress. It was an initial session, I'm guessing it might take him a few to actually figure me out better. I'm going back next week.
Cool guy though, he likes the Browns, says his wife got him into Ohio State football. I can see it going well.
You always seem to bring some quality reading material to the table. Luckily, I'm realizing I don't want to suffer for this woman as much as I thought I did.
I'm trying to look up, too. I hope it all works out. This month and the ones to come might suck, but hopefully I will be better off.
I've realized that myself finally. My issues always pop up in some form or another, and it's always the death of whatever I have, in some form or another. At some point, I just had to stop lying to myself and recognize the pattern.
I've been thinking a lot that it could go very well, because they won't have to do much to get inside my head and figure out what's going on there.
Is there something to this MASH song? I never knew it had lyrics
I'm hoping there is more, Hove. I'm not sure right now. Maybe I'm just in that stage where nothing makes sense. But I'm glad I'm trying the therapy thing, I have high hopes for it.
Overall, a pretty flawless comment. lol. I actually tried to move on a bit over a month ago. I was talking to a girl, she seemed down for anything. But I just wasn't into it, it made me depressed. I feel like an idiot sometimes, but it is what it is now. When the time is right, maybe I will.