I assume he totally co-signs Iowa State planting their flag.
There have been thousands of players celebrate thousands of wins WITHOUT being disrespectful. Celebrate all day - you earned it - but don't demean and degrade in the process.
Btw, I LOATHE the Gators and this was my stance when Georgia stomped their logo at midfield.
Maybe I'm just an old fart, but I'd like to maintain what's left of the dignity in college football. Now, get off my lawn.
Some you may have seen my posts speaking about my past experience - both professional and personal - with domestic violence.
In some of those posts I talked about the difference between a relationship that has violence and a domestic violence situation. They are not the same.
There is power and control and the purposeful use of intimidation in domestic violence.
What this very brave woman just shared with us is the kind of serious situation laws and shelters and outreach and community and awareness are designed to help and protect.
I do believe there was violence - most likely mutual - between ZS and CS. But not the kind described by the survivor above. What happened between the Smiths appears to be 2 very toxic, immature, adults who lack appropriate problem solving skills and have poor coping mechanisms, who escalate situations for a whole host of reasons germane to an unhealthy marriage.
Many like Mrs. Miller live with an ever present fear. We don't call the police. We don't talk about it with family and friends. We hide our injuries, we don't document them. We don't talk back and we don't pick fights. We're ballarinas dancing on eggshells trying not to make a sound.
That's fear. That's power. That's control. That's domestic violence.
Any implied criticisms I've expressed toward CS has not been to minimize her experience, but because those women who are at significant risk for their lives cannot be lost in the muck and the mire of the Smith's marriage.
Thank you Mrs. Miller for sharing your story.
Today is not my day.
I'm amazed at how much control and influence some people want employers to have in their lives.
Lol, how'd I miss that?
Amended to (assuming loss of) physical control. Lost his license, paid a fine, 3 day suspended jail sentence.
This occurred in April of 2015.
Just saw something about it being reduced. Anyone have the details yet?
Do I have scandal hangover or something, because I'm struggling to see how this is relevant?
Breaking News: ZS is an irresponsible asshole.
Occam's Razor certainly as applicable here.
Media's current mantra:
If it clicks, it sticks.
But we have James O'Keefe running around worried about flying Gatorade bottles and trivia questions.
A) willfully lie about something he knew was verifiable AND was already out in the open.
B) speak in reference to the information he had someone look into the night prior?
Not to mention, this was posed in the hallway in relation to 2009. What happened on 09? An arrest. What did the McMurphy acticle say originally? An arrest.
Seems if you go with A then you have to consider he didn't report it as he has claimed and believe he lied about that as well - again all things easily verifiable. Thus, he would have to be colossally stupid to intentionally lie at Media Day.
Did Hoke get fired for Brendon Gibbons?
Psst. Psst, over here. Lean down so I can whisper in your ear..
...it was a joke. He knows.
I could care less, because for all intensive purposes your going to have to be careful with you're words.
That's out of hound.
I haven't watched that stupid network since TatGate. Had an iIsider subscription forever too. Cancelled then too.
Pains me to watch any game-thank goodness for the mute button and radio feeds.
Me? Well, I guess you could since the link is right there...
I just gave you my 8th DV in as many years.
I'd just show the screenshot, but I don't know how. Sorry guys, I'm old and technologically insufficient.
I don't even know how to post a gif.
You guys see this?
Believing that someone is abusing his wife and believing there is a toxic volatile relationship are two different things.
I've been remiss to discuss the elements of a Power and Control DV cases mostly because to lay people it may not make sense.
Simply put, some of the worst most dangerous cases I've seen do not contain physical violence. Yes - you read that correctly.
When one partner (usually the male - but not always) controls each aspect of the others life this is DV, again absent any violence.
*access to money
*access to family, friends
*access to transportation
*using children against the other
I've seen cases of men nailing windows shut and dead-bolting doors - locking women in the home while they are gone. I've seen situations where exact money for groceries is given, miles checked on cars, stopwatches used to measure the exact time it SHOULD take, and being made to leave at least one child home during errands so the woman doesn't run. Phone calls are always monitored and listened in EVERY time. Scripts are used should authorities become involved. I've seen men sit in a parking lot for a woman's entire 8 hour shift of work - every day.
In EVERY case listed above there was NO VIOLENCE yet those are very, very dangerous situations.
Then there are people who solve their problems with violence. Those with explosive tempers, get in faces, push buttons, shove, hit - even out right fistfight. Obviously this is wrong, and criminal but it is not always 'domestic violence' outside of the criminal construct.
Sometimes there is both power/control AND violence and violence is what is used for control.
When I would staff cases with my investigators (my designation as a Subject Matter Expert required this in ALL allegations of DV) if power and control elements were not present, the case was referred an entirely different direction (I was a child abuse investigator for Florida DCF for 10 years).
This is in NO WAY meant to diminish anyone who has been physically abused in any incident absent power and control, but there are differing risk levels.
What does that mean here? I'm not sure bc I don't have ALL the info to determine if P&C are present, if it was mutually combative or any combination of the two.
What I would like taken from this is that physical violence is not always necessary to have a DV relationship and that all physical violence between two partners is not always DV (outside of the criminal elements).
I would also like to note for those who always ask - why doesn't the abused person just leave? Well, statistically the MOST dangerous time for anyone in a Power and Control relationship is when s/he leaves. This is when most victims are murdered. It's bc the abuser has lost ALL control. And in order to SAFELY get out it takes some planning and coordination. I recently helped a woman escape a situation with both violence and P&C - the logistics to get out safely, conceal the plan, have protective measures set up in order to stay safe during the process as well as having a place to go and access to resources AND the courage to do it is not easily understood by those who haven't lived or experienced it.
Likewise I have seen horrible cases in the other direction - cases where women have used the system in place for real victims for their own agendas. It may not be popular to talk about, but IT DOES HAPPEN and with more frequency than you would think.
Again, I'm not making any judgements about the situation between the Smith's bc I don't have access to all the facts.
Wait. I thought the ORIGINAL said felonious assault and the REVISED was criminal trespass??? I realize the chief said it's not uncommon for felonies to be moved down to misdemeanors, but I didn't think that's what happened in this case?
***went back and looked. This too is curious. Also saw Murphy allude to a 3rd report BUT again - where is it and why did he change his post of he has one that says arrested?
SO WHERE IS THE REPORT WITH THE ARREST BOX CHECKED????
And if McMurphy somehow got that one, WHY EDIT his post from 'arrested' to 'investigated'?
Am I missing something?