Joining a gang or not going to college at all were never an issue so I think they are irrelevant.
Saying "she is basically telling all of us how much she doesn't trust her own son", is just your assumption without reasonable and adequate facts to back it up. You cannot and should not judge someone with ambiguous information. In my opinion, it seems like you are judging Malik's mom.
Yes, many kids can hang out and be around others and not let them affect their decisions and choices. However, in Malik's case, in my opinion, one of the main reason Malik wants to go to MSU is because many of his friends are going to MSU. In my opinion, Malik's decision is affected by his friends. Also, reportedly, one of the main reason Desean Jackson was released by Eagles was because of people he associate with. Or when Michael Vick went to jail with dog fighting, didn't he say he wasn't thinking how bad it actually was because it was accepted by people around him? Those two, plus, Aaron Hernandaz, and many other players go into the NFL have to deal with their past.
Here's a quote from an article regarding Aaron Hernandaz,
“A lot of guys come into the NFL haunted by the past,’’ said Tully Banta-Cain, Hernandez’s Patriots teammate in 2010. “Some guys overcome it and some continue to be haunted throughout their careers if they’re not able to disassociate themselves from certain people or certain atmospheres. Aaron may have fallen victim to that.’’
There are many concerns about social influence, and Malik' mom doesn't want to risk her son to go through something similar to what Michael Vick or Aaron Hernendez had to go through, even though it might not be as extreme as those cases.
Seems like we are totally different, I cannot agree with a lot of your comments and wanted to reply.
"Basically she thinks he is making a mistake by selecting a college"
She doesn't think he is making a mistake by selecting a college but the reason behind it draws concerns for her.
"do tell what that reason is?" - reason for her not supporting Malik's decision
Reportedly, MSU players were telling Malik that he doesn't have to go to classes, MSU coaches went behind her back and told Malik to "Man-Up" instead trying to convince her they will manage all of her concerns the way that will satisfy her, perceived bad influence from Malik's friends that will attend MSU with him, also there may or may not be other reasons that aren't public.
"You tell any parent their child wants to go to college for any reason (ON A FULL RIDE) and they will accept it and sign anywhere."
If there are many choices, like Malik does, they rather pick the best option than signing anywhere.
"This is not her choice to make and she should be happy he is even attempting to go to college"
It is not, but its her choice to support his decision to go to MSU or not. She knows even without her support Malik can go to MSU one way or another, like I said, there could be reasons to not support her even though she knows he will go to MSU. (i.e. Malik could be more motivate to prove her wrong, compare to her letting him do what he wants without much resistance. He might not have that "fire" in him in later case)
"To not sign that form when he clearly prefers to go to MSU is a poor decision because he could have chosen another University for many worse reasons"
Yes, but he could have chosen another University for reasons that is reasonable to her as well.
"Plus he will find friends who might do the same at other Universities. He might have coaches that don't care about his education at other Universities."
If the report that MSU players telling him they don't have to go to classes is true, maybe to her MSU seems to be one of the University fall into this category?
"I was quite aware of all those reason thank you. Its BS if that is all of her reason"
Sorry, it seems to me you are judging her again without knowing her or her family. Please stop calling her reasons BS.
"I think the one thing you are leaving out is that she is in favor of Michigan and has bias towards MSU to start with. Which is even more BS."
Didn't Malik's parents say they want Malik to get out of state of MI?
"to me, that is not valid enough"
It is none of our business and she doesn't need validation from us
I cannot spend anymore time replying but bottom line, we should not judge Malik's or Malik's mom without personally knowing them. (Even if I knew them, I wouldn't judge but if I have to judge someone I want all the facts clearly laid out)
Please know I have no personal issues with you. In fact, I usually enjoy your comment on this site.
I just wanted to reply to your comments on this topic because it seems your are bit too harsh on his mom.
Just so you know, I do not agree how she handled Malik's recruiting, if I was in her shoes, I would have done many things differently but everyone has different way to do things and we should try to respect and understand that. At the end of the day, she means well.