I guess I'm just kind of confused on the approach you are taking, clearly you're pretty intelligent based off your vocabulary so maybe I just need it dumbed down for me a little bit.
Maybe it's a little bit of a Socratic approach?
I've known a few people on both sides of the fence: one friend of mine has struggled with his upbringing and blames his parents for a lot of his present difficulties; another was abandoned by his mother while he had to care for a cancer-stricken father (who survived) as a teenager. While the experiences in both cases were negative, they've led in different directions.
There is a sort of opposition between entitlement and ownership, although it's not always very clear. Entitlement we understand, although perhaps we impute it too easily to others. Ownership, though, is a little more complicated. My fourth grade teacher made my older brother clean up someone else's litter once, which is pretty unfair—he didn't dirty the hallway. But my brother "owned" the school (he wasn't simply entitled to an education), so it was his responsibility to keep it clean. Sometimes ownership means taking responsibility for someone else's actions, not just your own.
I'm guessing that being a parent is like that, and probably so is being a child. At some point you have to own the mistakes of the previous generation—just like they have to own the mistakes of the following—and make different and better choices.