very happy for the young man. And hopeful he continues to make improved decisions.
JB, your post is spot on. I happen to feel WAY differently than you do, but the 2 main points of your post are: 1. this (oversigning and other unattractive back channel goings on) is the REALITY now, and 2. people have to decide whether they will be cool with that. You have come to grips with it. I have not. But your post gets an UV from me even though we have a different reaction to today's reality.
hard to say it's a bogus point if it's true. and it's a stretch to say you've "destroyed" the point if all you've done is add some context to the facts, which is all you've done.