I'm afraid that you mistook my comment to mean that I condone the behavior and since it is human nature it is a justifiable reaction. I don't believe that at all.
My point was that not every person who has ever used a racial slur is a racist and explained why I believe this.
Riley Cooper? I never acknowledged the name until this past week. I would speculate that he feels more remorse about his comments being captured than actually making them, but again, that is just my speculation. There is a chance, even if it is small, that he does feel remorse for making them. Even if he does not, that still does not mean that every person who has or will find themselves in a similar situation will not feel remorse for making their mistake.
Who has never said something hurtful to a spouse, friend, etc that they regretted and didn't really mean? I think everyone has and everyone would recognize that. So why when race gets added, is it suddenly unforgivable and only hate motivated and a reflection of the individual's heart.
Rome's comment which you claim to agree with is an absolute, no exceptions stand point. I personally think this gets in the way of mending relations.
What is really the harm in giving someone who had a single incident the benefit of the doubt?